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Can you imagine doing somebody a favor and they don't even say "Thank you"?Believe it or not, there are many people who take others for granted. Oh yes, so many of them! Unfortunately, yes, unfortunately, there are many people like this wherever we go. In fact, sometimes when we give something to them and they don't say the magic word Thank You, I'd be the one embarrassed because he or she doesn;t know how to be appreciative. But as long as I learn to be grateful, that should be enough. Really?
Having said that, I don’t really believe the words "Thank you" have to be said in order for appreciation to be expressed. Why? Come to think about this, a smile can do just as well. The other thing to consider is what exactly is a 'favor'? Is pausing for a second to hold a door for the next customer at the store a favor? Or is that just good manners? Is picking up a pen that a coworker dropped a favor? Or is it just being nice?How about step in front, volunteering yourself helping your colleagues at the office whenever they are in need. Is this consider being nice? Oh, by the way, is this so-called ‘helping hand’ situation really exist? Particularly in your office? I doubt it!
I don’t think everyone always does nice things for others because they expect something back. Sometimes favors are a way to show appreciation for something someone else has done. Sometimes when you witness a favor, the thanks has been given in a way not seen. Perhaps it is a return favor. If everyone stopped helping other people because they weren’t given the thanks they thought they deserved, I think everyone would become miserable. Sometimes taking an extra second to help out someone will completely change their day around.
If someone thinks they are being taken advantage of, then of course they should speak up. Not everyone realizes that a certain task isn’t part of a person's job at work. Not everyone realizes that you have to go out of your way for certain things. I think the key to approaching someone, though, is to try to be as positive as possible. For example at work say something along the lines of 'I really don’t mind helping you out with your task, but today I just have too many other things to do and can’t help. Ask me again next time and I would be happy to help if I can.' It will show that it is something you are doing to be helpful and that you don’t mind, but you aren’t being negative or accusatory. But, to be honest, if we say something like that, what are the interpretations that we will get? Sour face! And then they will start gossiping around about us. Why ah?
To top all, I would say that the best thing to do is to help others as much as possible. The (unseen) benefits are available for the person being helped and for the person helping.
(Written on Thursday, April 14th, 2011 at 3:11am)